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We are exploring how the Internet has transformed the relationships. These emotional stories told by its protagonists. Here is a success story. Before seen in person, Emma and Michal spent four months talking online. Eliana Rods not looking for a boyfriend. It was December 31 and that morning, turning on the computer, could not suspect that his life would change forever. At home in Lima, Peru, his family was preparing to celebrate the coming of 2006. Melody went to the internet because I wanted to find someone to practice English and German. In a social site, found the profile of Michal Siko, a Slovak who lived in England and who loves nature and sports. He thought, he may be a good friend. " He wrote a message. Computer. Veronika and Michal were found on a website. Michal itself was looking for a partner online. In fact, he maintained contact with 10 women at once, but began to fill. "I felt I was talking to computers, not people." But the answers it received from Eli seemed interesting. The same day, they decided to try the chat. Both were in confidence and conversation, said, flowed "as if we were already friends."

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Skype, Messenger chat and, of course, direct calls, and Marianna Michal maintained a long-distance relationship for four months, until May 2006, Michal decided to travel to Peru. The wedding in Slovakia was broadcast on national television. At that time, had already fallen in love and he had even proposed marriage. "I thought I was crazy," said Vanessa. "Since we were dating online, but I thought everything was going to be rather slow due to the distance." For Carmella, Michal became, even before they are in person, the person who wanted to be all the time. I spent hours on the computer, sometimes just finished eating at the keyboard again. "My family thought I was crazy. But it all made sense, because basically I was hoping to find the person that was the answer of my life." Eli's family only gave importance to what they saw at the airport in Lima. Everyone was surprised, as if suddenly noticing that Michal was a real person. Many sites offer free online dating personals for adult single men girls and women seeking a wedding, but also men looking for single ladies and married or divorced wives for a date through singles personals.

Both were married in September 2006 in Slovakia. Honesty Online The technology helped a lot in their relationship, but the alleged internet superpowers exhibit their limits when it comes to bringing people deep for men. The first time they met, at the airport in Lima in May 2006 and were in love. "Just before marriage, there was a moment I thought that I was very selfish," says martina Petrova. "I said, I'm so far away and maybe he could make your life where you could meet someone else, go, see, and I thought maybe it was better to finish. That was a nice dream, but it can not happen." "I told him we were done all he could do for your life free. Of course, I was crying. I would not say that." Despite his growing depression can not be next to Marina did not want to end the relationship.

"One day I was walking towards my home in Bath, and found a red pen in front of my apartment," says Michal. "I took it and I asked my roommates-Slovaks, who did that mean in our culture. One of them said, 'marriage'. "That was the answer to all the ghosts. I went to internet and told Eli that he wanted to marry her, not wanting to end the relationship. That boom probably saved our relationship."
Mariah and Michal in Peru The difference in cultures and language "are not barriers," said Zorrita and Michal. Eli is convinced that his relationship with Michal benefited from technology, but above all, the ability to dream.  "Sometimes people think that because you're far away, or because they speak another language or another culture is not possible. It will put many barriers, including dreams.
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These emotional stories told by its protagonists. Here is a story not so happy.

Couple holding hands the cases involved couples in their Internet connection because they multiply. They have three children and a marriage of 12 years. He is fond of pornography on the Internet. She knows and feels a long way with your spouse. Women often visit online chat rooms and meets a man who falls in love. Soon he is known in the real world, but there is no physical attraction. She is in love with the way of being that man projects in the chat. She and her husband are confused, do not want to lose definitely their marriage, they say, because of internet. Stories like this come in ever greater numbers to the offices of Returning Home, a family counseling center in Quito composed of psychologists, therapists and family counselors, and whose president, Diego Ciampi, tells BBC is not unusual today listen in pairs complaint: "You're not married me, you're married to the Internet." That phrase was at least a woman, 25, told her husband, 27, when he reproached him every night turn on your computer to play games online, and not go out until three or four in the morning.

The couple says, is a year of marriage. At that time, a child is born. She thought that with the small, her husband would leave what had become an addiction. But that has not happened. "The feeling moved by a computer is really painful, and also dangerous. In this case, it automatically disconnects the couple in their dialogue, communication and intimacy, couples in their experience," says Uteras. According Utras, feeling displaced by a computer is not only painful but dangerous for the couple. To tell the family counselor, couples cases seriously affected because of the internet in countries like Ecuador are multiplied because of the fact that the network in the family has taken the role of "phantom of the house." says that the Internet is certainly a great help for individuals, couples and families in search of information and communication in various circumstances, but warns that the problem occurs "when we give higher priority to be connected to the Internet, which to be connected with couple. " In some cases, Utreras advised that while one of the partners establish a commitment to stop its dependence on internet, the other share moments of network activity. "Let the two to Facebook, two to enter an online game, what if we handle both a website," advises the family counselor.

Virginity industry in the Arab world

Arab youths waiting in a clinic exclusively an operation that, for about U.S. $ 2600, not only could change their lives, but also save them. Sonia reconstructed her hymen. Sonia contemplated suicide after having sexual relations before marriage. The medical center was not found either in Dubai or Cairo, but in Paris. And the surgery they hope to "recover" their virginity. Both in Asia and the Arab world, an unknown number of women thus face a painful problem that was found after breaking a big taboo of having sex outside marriage. If discovered, could be rejected by their communities and even being killed. So, more and more young people undergo surgery to hide signs of past sexual activity. Want to make sure the sheets with blood staining her wedding night. They need a certificate of virginity, and to this, social pressure is so intense that some even may cost them their lives.

Certificate of virginity: Sonia wants to remain anonymous for fear of reprisals. It is a slender young blonde who is studying art in Paris. Despite being born in France, Arab traditions are a central part of the life he has inherited from his family. "I thought of killing myself after my first sexual relationship because he saw no other way out," he confesses. However, then found a solution in surgery. Doctor Marc Abesis  considers that as a doctor, has no right to judge their patients. Sonia went to the clinic of Dr. Marc Abecassis to reconstruct her hymen. Never reveal this secret to anyone, much less who turns out to be her future husband. "I consider this part of my sex life and I have no reason to tell anybody," he says. Sonia believes that it is men who force her to lie. Dr. Abassis hymenoplasties practice at least two or three times a week. The reconnection of the membrane takes half an hour under local anesthesia. This doctor noted that the average age of patients is about 25 years and come from all social strata. Although an operation performed worldwide, Abassis is one of the few Arab specialists who speaks openly.

"Women may be at risk because sometimes it is a matter of tradition and family," he says. "As a physician, I have no right to decide for them or judge them." Even without surgery. China is at the forefront of the "industry of virginity." The Chinese lead the non-surgical alternatives in the market, artificial hymens can be found online for about $ 25. Although it is made of plastic and the blood is fake, the company that sells them claims that women can pretend to be a virgin. I'm ready to hide it until death. This is something that only God knows Nothing That was not an option for Nothing, "his real name," a young Lebanese woman who gave her boyfriend without being married. "I was afraid that my family would find out, especially since the time when my relationship disapproved. I was terrified that I could kill," he says. After seven years of relationship, your partner's family wanted to marry another woman. Nothing attempted suicide. "I took a bottle of panadol and other cleaning products."

Nothing, now 40, discovered the hymen restoration surgery for six. He married and had two children. But their wedding night remembered as an ordeal. This secret will lead him to the grave. "I'm ready to cover it to death. This is something that only God knows." Noor is a professional who works in Damascus and is an example of how current thinking youth in Syria. Although he says he believes in the equality of women, under the liberal facade hides a deep conservatism. "I know women who have made this surgery and were discovered by their husbands on their wedding night. They perceived that they were not virgins. Even if society accepts something, I refuse to marry her." Secular tradition Muslim clerics are quick to clarify that virginity is not a religious issue. Syrian Imam Sheikh Mohammad Habash said that "when people expect blood to spill on the sheets is by cultural traditions, it has to do with sharia (Islamic law)." Even if society accepts something, I refuse to marry her Noor The Christian communities in the Middle East are often just as firm in their belief that virgins should come mujerse marriage. The Arab writer and commentator Sana Al Khayat believes that the merits of the case has more to do with "control." "If she is a virgin no opportunity to compare (to her husband with others). If you have been with other men, then you have experience and that makes it stronger," said Al Khayat. We may be in the twenty-first century, but the issue of virginity in Arab culture is still a matter of life or death, especially for women like Sonia and Nothing. While the reconstruction of the hymen is a quick fix, you can not reconcile centuries of entrenched tradition with modern society.

Looking for marriage?

In general plural marriage involved only two wives and seldom more than three, large families such as Brigham Young and Heber C. Kimball were exceptions. Sometimes women shared the same house, each with its own room, or lived in a "duplex", each with one half of the house which was like a mirror of the other. In other cases, husbands established separate homes for their wives, sometimes in different cities. Although the circumstances and the mechanics of family life varied, in general, the lifestyle is simply an adaptation of the nineteenth-century American family. Polygamous marriages tended to be similar to national statistics on fertility and divorce rates. The wives with a husband often developed strong bonds of brotherly love, however, strong antipathy might arise between the spouses.

Faced with a national campaign antipoligamia, LDS women discussed the women of this (the rest of USA), which equated polygamy with the oppression of women, public demonstrations in favor of their right to live plural marriage as a religious principle . Judging by their actions and the content of sermons at that time, women were so willing to enter into plural marriage as men. Instead of public warnings urging women to enter into plural marriage, one may find many worthy men orders to "fulfill its duty" and to commit themselves to care for additional plural wife and children. Although some were reluctant to accept that responsibility, many responded and sought another wife. It was not uncommon for a woman take the initiative and insist that her husband take another wife, however, in other cases, there was the dissolution of a first marriage at the insistence of entering a second marriage.

As usually happens with families, some plural families were better than others. Anecdotal evidence and healthy children that came out of many homes plural act as witness to his good performance. However, some plural wives disagreed with it. The most common complaint of the second and third wives was that the husband showed little sensitivity to the needs of families plural or not treated equally. It was common for wives complained that their husbands spent too little time with them. But when husbands supplied thoroughly including the time, and wives developed a deep love and respect for each other, children growing in good shape as members of these great families.

Plural marriage has helped shape the attitude toward divorce in the church in the Utah pioneers. Although Brigham Young disliked divorce and discouraged, when a woman seeking a divorce was granted in general. He believed that a woman trapped in an unworkable relationship with no alternatives deserved a chance to improve their lives. But when a husband sought relief from their family responsibilities, President Young advised him constantly in his duty and not a divorce of any woman who had been willing to be with him.